Darling Evangeline. I feel for you. Nina was not your friend--she was a vampire. What you did before you were married was none of your husband's business. It was a mistake, sure. But you were drunk, and alcohol turns us back into the animals we can never quite escape being, driven by hormones only...

I don't know why your husband asked for a divorce, since I don't know him. But it is possible that he felt betrayed--not by the "act" itself, but by your lying to him by pretending it had never happened--so he felt, reasonably enough, that he could not trust you.

Again, I am sure you are devastated by this, and I wish I could help you heal your broken heart. But I think you need to re-think your attitudes toward marriage as some kind of prison sentence--such an attitude can only engender resentment toward any man you marry. Once you grow up a bit, I hope you will find a young man whom you can trust, and you will try living with him for a while before you get married, so you can get a sense of whether or not he truly understands you, and gives you the space you need to be who you want to be. There are plenty of decent, good-hearted men out there who fit the bill. Don't let one foolish mistake ruin your life. As the old Supremes song wisely put it, "you can't hurry love" and as Smokey Robinson sang, "you better shop around..."