The minute you said "bourgeois democracies" you gave yourself away, since "bourgeois" is the generic term of abuse used by doctrinaire Marxists for everything they don't like. In short, this is rubbish.

If Stalin, Mao, and the Kim dynasty in North Korea are not "totalitarian," what is? These were/are nations where intellectual freedom does not exist, and criticism of the power elite is punishable by death or lifelong incarceration in gulags.

My loathing for these regimes goes hand-in-hand with my contempt for fascist dictatorships everywhere--including "democratically" elected ones like Bolsonaro and Trump (and Hitler, for that matter). If you do not see that tyranny can be either left- or right-wing in its affiliations, you are blinded by ideology. And the ideals of democracy--intellectual freedom, human rights, and government to secure those rights by consent of the governed--have no necessary connection to the abuses of democratically elected leaders (i.e. colonialism and exploitation).